Counselling for one sided love

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Counselling for one sided love gives you a private place to grieve what you hoped for, loosen the hope that keeps the feeling alive, and put your energy back into your own life. At ClaraShift you talk with a counsellor online by video or audio, and you see the price before you pay. Moving on usually starts with accepting their answer and creating some distance.

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Audio from ₹2,499, video from ₹2,999 per session

Last updated 2026-10-28 · Part of relationships & attachment

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How ClaraShift helps with one sided love

You meet one counsellor, privately, by video or audio. Every person is different, but sessions for this usually focus on:

Say it fully

Many people have never told anyone how strong the feeling is. Saying it to someone neutral takes away some of its weight.

Understand the pull

You look at what this person stands for, like being chosen or feeling special, so the feeling makes more sense.

Set kind limits

You plan how much contact, checking, and hoping you will allow, and what to do when the urge comes.

Notice the pattern

If you often fall for people who are not available, sessions help you see why and choose differently.

Counsellors who work with this

Nidhi Singh

Wellness Counsellor, CBT, ACT and anxiety support

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Nidhi Singh brings 9+ years of experience supporting clients with anxiety, stress, relationships, and emotional wellness. She integrates Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) approaches in a warm, structured style. She holds an M.Sc. in Clinical & Counseling Psychology (Gold Medalist) and a Diploma in Community Mental Health from NIMHANS. She works in English, Hindi, and Bengali. On ClaraShift, Nidhi provides wellness and counselling-style support. She does not provide clinical assessments, diagnoses, or emergency care.

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Dr. Shweta Singh

Counsellor for individuals, couples and teens

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Dr. Shweta Singh offers calm, structured online sessions for individuals, couples, and teens, in English or Hindi. People book her for stress, relationships, and a clear next step. She is RCI licensed (CRR No. A115295). If you are booking for a teenager, a parent or guardian should complete the booking. ClaraShift sessions are wellness support, not emergency care.

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How to move on from one sided love: what you can try today

Take their answer as the answer
If they said no, went quiet, or only reach out when they need something, that is information. Stop rereading it for a hidden yes.
Create real distance
Mute, unfollow, and stop starting conversations for a while. Every small reply refuels the hope.
Grieve the story, not only the person
Much of the pain is for the future you imagined together. Let yourself be sad about that story ending.
Notice the fantasy
Write down what you actually know about them versus what you hope. The gap is often where the longing lives.
Spend the attention on your life
Put the hours you spent thinking about them into friends, sleep, study, work, or a skill. Attention is what feeds the feeling.
Be kind about the rejection
Not being chosen by one person is not proof that you are unlovable. It means this was not a match.

Why is one sided love so hard to get over?

Research on unrequited love finds that both sides struggle: the person who loves without return often reports heartbreak and a hit to self esteem, while the person saying no often feels guilty and unsure how to act. Hope is the hardest part. A small kind message can feel like proof, and the cycle starts again.

Rejection also activates some of the same brain systems as physical pain. Feeling it deeply is human, not a flaw.

Is it one sided love or are they just slow to show it?

It is probably one sided if most of these are true:

You almost always start the conversation
They are warm in private but distant in public, or the other way round
Plans are vague and rarely happen
They have told you they do not feel the same, but you hope it will change
You feel anxious more often than happy around them

Can I stay friends with someone who does not love me back?

Sometimes, but usually not straight away. Staying close while hoping for more keeps the wound open. A break gives the feeling time to settle. Later, a friendship can work if you no longer wait for it to become something else.

How long does it take to move on?

It varies with how long you hoped and how much contact continues. Distance usually speeds things up. If after a few months you still organise your days around them, a counsellor can help you find what keeps the hope going.

When is it time to talk to someone?

The feeling is taking over study, work, or sleep
You keep returning after deciding to let go
It is part of a pattern of choosing people who are not available
You feel worthless, hopeless, or have thoughts of not wanting to be here

If you might hurt yourself, contact local emergency services now. ClaraShift is not a crisis line.

If you are in India

One sided love often stays secret in India, especially in college or at work, which can make it feel heavier. Family may also be talking about marriage at the same time. An online session is a private place to say what you have not told anyone.

Audio sessions start at ₹2,499. Video starts at ₹2,999. Exact prices are on the India pricing page before you pay. The government Tele-MANAS helpline is 14416 (Ministry of Health). ClaraShift is not that helpline.

Talk it through with a counsellor

Private wellness counselling by video or audio. Pick a therapist, choose a listed time, and see the price before you pay.

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Common questions

Can counselling help with one sided love?

Yes. A counsellor helps you understand why this person has such a hold, ease the self blame, and plan distance you can stick to. ClaraShift sessions are private and online by video or audio.

Should I tell them how I feel?

If you have never said it, a clear and calm message can end the uncertainty. If you already have and they said no, telling them again usually restarts the pain.

Why do I keep falling for people who are unavailable?

Sometimes the chase feels familiar, or distance feels safer than real closeness. This is a common theme in sessions and worth exploring with a counsellor.

What if I feel unsafe or cannot cope?

Contact local emergency services or a crisis line now. ClaraShift is not an emergency service.

Sources

Scope of care depends on the therapist you book. Review credentials before booking. ClaraShift is not an emergency service. See Terms.