Breakup counselling online

Short answer

Breakup counselling is private one to one support to help you grieve the relationship, stop the habits that keep reopening it, and rebuild your days. At ClaraShift you talk with a counsellor online by video or audio, and you see the price before you pay. Most people feel steadier within weeks to months, and support helps most when you feel stuck.

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Last updated 2026-10-28 · Part of relationships & attachment

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How ClaraShift helps with breakup

You meet one counsellor, privately, by video or audio. Every person is different, but sessions for this usually focus on:

Make sense of what happened

You tell the full story without being judged, and start to see what the relationship meant and why it ended.

Break the loops

Together you spot what keeps pulling you back, like checking their profile or late night replays, and plan what to do instead.

Work on what it woke up

If the breakup touched older pain, like feeling not good enough, sessions give that room too.

Plan the next few weeks

You leave each session with one or two small steps for sleep, contact, and the people around you.

Counsellors who work with this

Susan Christy

Counsellor for anxiety, relationships and family

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Susan Christy has more than 20 years of hospital and university experience. She offers private online sessions for teens, adults, and couples who want support with anxiety, low mood, relationships, trauma, parenting, or family stress. Sessions can be in English, Hindi, or Gujarati. Her style is structured, with practical next steps. ClaraShift sessions are wellness support. They are not a diagnosis and not emergency care.

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Dr. Shweta Singh

Counsellor for individuals, couples and teens

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Dr. Shweta Singh offers calm, structured online sessions for individuals, couples, and teens, in English or Hindi. People book her for stress, relationships, and a clear next step. She is RCI licensed (CRR No. A115295). If you are booking for a teenager, a parent or guardian should complete the booking. ClaraShift sessions are wellness support, not emergency care.

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How to move on after a breakup: what you can try today

Name it as a loss
You lost a person, a routine, and a future you had pictured. Calling it grief makes the waves of sadness make sense.
Reduce contact and checking
Mute or unfollow for now. Checking their profile keeps the wound open, and research links it to more distress and longing.
Protect sleep, food, and movement
These are the first things a breakup knocks over. A short walk and a regular bedtime do more than they sound like.
Tell one or two people the true version
Not the brave version. Feeling understood by someone lowers the pull to reach back to the person who left.
Write the story, then put it down
Ten minutes of writing about what happened and what it meant can turn a loop into a story with an ending.
Rebuild who you are outside the couple
Pick up one thing that was yours before, or try one new thing. Identity comes back through small actions.

Why does a breakup hurt this much?

Brain imaging studies show that intense rejection activates some of the same regions involved in physical pain, and that people still in love after being left show activity in reward and craving systems. That is why it can feel like withdrawal, and why the urge to text can be so strong.

This is a normal human reaction, not a sign that you are weak or too attached.

How long does it take to get over a breakup?

There is no fixed timeline. Length of the relationship, how it ended, and what else is happening in your life all change it. Many people notice that the hardest days become less frequent over a few months, while some memories still sting for longer.

A better question than how long is whether it is slowly getting lighter. If nothing has shifted after several weeks, or things are getting worse, that is a good reason to talk to someone.

Should I stay friends or keep in contact with my ex?

Often not at first. Contact keeps hope alive and restarts the pain each time. A period of little or no contact gives your mind space to adjust. If you share children, work, or a home, keep contact short and practical.

What makes moving on harder?

These patterns tend to keep people stuck longer:

Rereading old chats or checking their social media
Blaming yourself for everything, or for nothing
Jumping into a new relationship mainly to stop the pain
Using alcohol or endless scrolling to avoid feeling it
Going quiet with friends because you feel embarrassed

When is it time to talk to someone?

You cannot sleep, eat, or work properly after several weeks
You keep returning to someone who hurts you
The breakup brought back older pain, like feeling not good enough
You feel hopeless, or have thoughts of not wanting to be here

If you might hurt yourself, contact local emergency services now. ClaraShift is not a crisis line.

Talk it through with a counsellor

Private wellness counselling by video or audio. Pick a therapist, choose a listed time, and see the price before you pay.

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Common questions

Can counselling help after a breakup?

Yes. A counsellor helps you make sense of what happened, notice the patterns that keep you stuck, and plan the next few weeks. ClaraShift sessions are private and online by video or audio.

Is it normal to still miss someone who treated me badly?

Yes. Missing someone is about attachment, not about whether they were good for you. You can miss them and still choose not to go back.

Do I need my ex to come to the session?

No. Breakup sessions are one to one. You work on your own recovery and choices.

What if I feel unsafe or cannot cope?

Contact local emergency services or a crisis line now. ClaraShift is not an emergency service.

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